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@ Improved my relationship with my fiance

Report from a client aged 52 who attended three of my classes over 3 weeks.  He picked up the techniques very quickly, practiced in all earnestness and derived remarkable benefits in just 3 weeks. When I see improvement achieved by such people, I get the thought “How many people are suffering from not knowing these simple techniques or similar ones? Should we not teach them in school and college?”. 

His responses to my standard questions are here. 

  • What were the issues which prompted you do the classes?

* Insomnia: I have sleep apnea and using CPAP machine. I had a hard time falling asleep . I was waking up 2- 3 times in the night.

* How to manage stress

* Managing anger (as it affected my relationship with my fiance)

  • What techniques have you learned and practiced and at what times? 

I practiced ‘Counting mode’ primarily, the ‘Segment mode’ or the ‘Tip mode’. I also practice the ‘Staring mode’ when at a red light (1). I find myself being disappointed when the light turns green, as it interrupts my breathing practice (2). I also use the feeling mode (1) sometimes when at work.

I do the ‘waking up routine’ (3)-.

After returning from work, I lie down on the carpet with a yoga mat under just below the knee and complete four hands using the ‘Segment mode’ (1).

I do the going the ‘bed routine’ every night (4).

  • What improvements have you noticed in mind, body and relationships?

My insomnia has improved dramatically. In just the three weeks practicing these techniques, I have only woken up once in the middle of the night and I fall asleep much faster.

I’m much more patient in circumstances where I’m usually impatient such as waiting at a red light.

I feel much more relaxed. Especially after coming home from work and doing the after work routine. I feel incredibly relaxed after that, like all the day’s tension has gone.

It has improved my relationship with my fiance. I’m much calmer in situations where normally I would react in anger or feel tension rising within me. Instead of responding back to her in anger and frustration, I try ways such as telling her that I appreciate her feedback but I get negative feelings when she expresses it to me in that manner. This has worked in preventing the situation from escalating. I try not to feed the fire.

(1) All the modes are in this page “How can I focus on breathing?
(2) Focusing on breathing during driving
(3) Waking up routine
(4) Waiting for sleep

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@ Felt fresh at the end of a 3 hour ‘car trip’ – Alfred’s progress

See (1) to know about Alfred. 


This week was interesting because I took a trip to the ocean to fish with an old friend. One day I meditated on the sand on a beautiful ocean beach with the sounds of surf and shore birds. The next day I practiced on my friend’s deck in an urban area. The change of place in some ways distracted me a bit but also it made my “journey” different and I learned something from it.

I am doing pretty much the same practice as last week. However I am constantly refining subtle elements such as body scanning, breathing technique and mindfulness.


Meditation is considered a practice because it is something that, for most people, must be learned and developed. The natural state of human consciousness is not tranquil and serene. One of our evolutionary inheritances is to be on guard against danger. Although imminent danger is absent from many of our lives, our atavistic memory can keep us in a slightly edgy and nervous state. To achieve calm and clarity of thought through a meditative practice is to rise above these instinctual tendencies. This does not mean that you become blind to reality. By first recognizing needless anxious thought and then redirecting your mind, you are actually becoming more in tune with the real world and gain the additional benefit of well being.


I took a 3 hour car trip and applied calm and alert thought practices while driving. Not only was the trip very pleasant but, in addition, my perception of time became elastic and I felt as fresh when I completed the trip as when I started.

(1) Alfred

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Posts of Alfred’s progress

* My professional insights

I am using the convenience of this web site to share my professional insights and experiences. These insights helped me break free from the tyranny of past experience in the places I worked. I combined these insights with constant search for authentic knowledge, countless hours of work, and lack of fear in challenging popular beliefs, practices and people at all levels.

This approach helped me in radically transforming the places where I worked, in a year or two. If some of the posts in this ‘Professional’ category help a few young managers, I would feel my efforts amply rewarded. What prompted me to begin these posts? It was the the following e-mail from one of my wonderful ex-colleagues in ITC PSPD, R.V. S. S. N. Raju that triggered my dormant intention.

“I have worked under your guidance for nearly eight years at the beginning of my career. I learned a lot then and continue to learn. But, honestly the work culture that I maintain, has roots back to those days. The principles of the book you made us read “Built to Last: Successful habits of visionary companies” (1) made a lasting impression on me that I still benefit from. I am very thankful for everything you taught me and the principles you sowed in my mind.”
R.V.S.S. N. Raju, President Meridiansoft (3)

Periodic posts will follow. Meanwhile please see my  power point charts ‘Basic Management Concepts’ (2).

(1) ‘Built to last’ by James C. Collins and Jerry I. Porras
(2) Basic management concepts – Power Point charts 
(3) Meridiansoft

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