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October Is ‘DOMESTIC VIOLENCE’ Awareness Month

Do you know that
– 1 in 4 women and nearly 1 in 7 men in the U.S. have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime
–  48% of women and 48% of men have experienced at least one psychologically aggressive behavior by an intimate partner.
–  The 24/7 Domestic Violence Hotlines collectively receive 800+ calls an hour.

Who are affected by DV?
Survivors and abusers exist among women/men, high/low positions, high/low income, high/low education, job holders/homemakers and followers of all religions.

What do we mean by DV?
Domestic Violence is defined as “A pattern of coercive tactics used by one partner with the goal of establishing and maintaining power and control over the other. The coercion may be in one or more of these forms: Verbal, Emotional, Psychological, Economic, Physical and Sexual.”
The abuser may or may not physically hurt the partner. He/she maintains “Power and Control” over the partner by effectively terrorizing her/him using tactics like: Isolation from family and friends, Minimizing or denying her/his feelings, Lying, Blaming, Using children as pawns, Intimidation and Controlling money.

Why don’t the survivors leave the abusers?
Most common reasons are that they
–  may not realize they’re being abused if the abuse isn’t physical and even if it is – feel the abuse is their fault, and they are responsible for fixing the relationship
–  may be embarrassed or ashamed
–  can’t break the wedding vows
–  feel restricted by family, community or religious expectations
–  don’t want to disturb their children’s lives
–  afraid that the abuser will fight for sole custody of their children
–  have limited financial resources and social support
–  may still love the abuser and just want the abuse to stop
–  the abuser may promise it’ll never happen again

For the common Q&A about Domestic Violence check out the links below –

Frequently asked Questions and Answers (HTML)  PDF version from the Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence New york State
Frequently asked questions  from The National Network to End Domestic Violence
Facts about Domestic Violence in US  (National and state by state) from National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
National DV Hotline

Related page with exhaustive links: Relationships: Healthy, Unhealthy/Abusive

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